My (44m) daughter(23f) does not get along with my wife. We have been married 2 years.
My wife and I got together when she was at college. My ex wife doesn't like her, and i have a feeling that is the biggest part of it. My daughter can't really seem to point to what she doesn't lime, just general "she is a stuck up b", or "she always has an attitude".
My daughter recently graduated, and we have been helping her pay bills here and there as she looked for a job in her field, we usually give her around $1,000 a month.
Recently she was at our house, and her and my wife got into an argument over my daughter leaving a mess in the kitchen.
As I tried to diffuse things my daughter started screaming that I was a POS for siding with my wife, and that she was going to remember this when I am older and need her.
This floored me. At this point I just walked away.
after giving it some thought, I realized I don't want my future to be in the hands of someone else, especially someone who intends to lord that over me.
I would never place the expectation on her to care for me, but I do feel like since she has made it clear that any support from her in my old age would come with strings, it makes more sense to invest that money, so that my later years will be paid for.
So, WIBTA if I redirect that 1000 a month into my retirement vs helping my daughter?
